Over reaction???

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I had a problem this last week.  We lost Jamie’s night nurse.  The week before last, I found my nanny cam and decided that I would put it in Jamie’s room.  I figured that when there isn’t a day nurse and I haven’t had a whole lot of sleep I could turn it on and lie on the couch and be able to keep a constant watch on him while he was sleeping.  I put this camera in Jamie’s room, taped to the front of one of his dressers, in plain site.  This particular nurse came in the night that it was put on the dresser and Sun, Mon and Tues of the next week.  On Tuesday night, I had a hard time going to sleep.  It was about 4 am when I was finally able to drift off.  Sometime around 6 am (not really sure of the time), I heard a knock at my bedroom door.  It was this nurse telling me that Jamie’s vent had beeped twice and he didn’t know what was causing it.  He said that this had happened a lot one night the week before (the way he descirbed it, the night the week before was so much more that this night, however, I was not woken up that previous night) and he didn’t know what to do to fix it.  I told him what I could think of in my very much only 1/2 awake state, the same things that we had been over several times before this night when his vent had beeped in this same way.  (Most of the time there gets a little bit of water in one of the tubes and he was instructed on the best way to get out that water, he was also told to wake me up if something happened).  But before he left my doorway, he asked, “Did you install a camera in Jamie’s room?”  I, of course said yes, as I had done so just a few days before.  He wanted to know what it was for.  I explained to him that it was for me to be able to check on Jamie when I am in the living room so that I don’t have to go in to his room everytime I hear just the slightest noise.  He made the comment that if I did install a camera in there, that he couldn’t be here with a camera.  I didn’t really give that comment much thought, since I figured I had explained it’s purpose and that it had nothing to do with him or his time here. 

The following morning, he woke me again at 8 am to sign his time slip because he was leaving.  Now this is something that they usually only want me to do once per week and waking me to sign it before he leaves when he is coming back that very night was not something that he did.  Then, I figured that he was going to call off that night or was going to quit.  While signing his two papers, he went on to tell me that the ”Story” that he got from the day nurse that was relieving him was not what I told him, that he was an excellent nurse and didn’t need to be watched.  He also stated that he didn’t want to end up on “You Tube” picking his nose.  I have to say, I don’t know why he would think that I would do that.  I personally wouldn’t want to see anyone picking their nose, not even a celebrity, so why would I do that to him?  I have to say, I was a little stunned.  First of all, what gave that other nurse the right to tell him any “Story”?  She didn’t put the camera there, she was just getting ready to leave for the day when I put the camera on the dresser the week before.  Second, why would he believe the “Story” that she gave him over me?  I was the owner and installer of the camera, and I imagine that would make me the one person that would know the reason for it’s presence.  I don’t understand what gives him the expectation that I should automatically trust him with my child but I wasn’t supposed to be trusted that I wouldn’t tape him doing something embarrassing and post it all over the internet?  I didn’t hide the camera, it was in PLAIN SITE and if you have to do something like pick your nose, you could walk out of the camera’s area and do so and no one would ever know the difference.  I also don’t understand how putting this camera out in plain site is so horrible.  If I thought that one of the nurses was doing something that was wrong, I would have made sure that camera was hidden and no one would have known it was there and it would have been hooked up to tape.  He didn’t even give me a chance to show him that it was not taping or to talk about it more.  He just called and quit based on what another nurse told him that doesn’t really know what the camera was for, just what she assumed it was for.  She also said that he was mad because he wasn’t told that it was there.  Well, if it was hidden, he would have never known it was there and I wouldn’t have told him it was there!  The fact that he didn’t get here until midnight every night and that I was thinking a lot about the court date that was coming up, I didn’t tell him that I had put the camera there.  I didn’t really think that anyone would have reacted like that.  I mean, my idea is that if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, then the only thing that a camera would do is prove that fact.  If you aren’t doing what you are supposed to be doing then the camera would have proved that fact, if I even had it hooked up to tape him all night.  The longer time goes and the more I think about it the less I want him here anyways.  What was he doing so horrible that he didn’t want me to see?  The fact that the camera was in plain site and could be seen should show that I wasn’t trying to “catch” someone doing something wrong.  The fact that he saw it and could see exactly where it was pointed should have been a good thing so that he wouldn’t do anything embarrassing in front of it.

    I feel very unjustly “punished” for this camera in my sons room.  I guess I should have been sneaky with it and hidden it.  I am just not a naturally sneaky person and didn’t really think it would be such a huge deal that I couldn’t show and prove to him what it was for and that he hadn’t been taped.  And people wonder why it is so hard to trust some stranger in your home at night while you sleep… what was he REALLY doing?? What would I have caught him doing if I had been taping him?  I am curious about that, but since I never did watch him or tape him, I will never really, truly know the answers to those questions….

What do you think??? I would love to hear some different points of view on this situation…

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